Spike21
07-05-2000, 12:06 PM
I'm concerned about my little brother. He's 10 and he's got quite a temper. It comes from the fact that my two younger sisters ALWAYS boss him around and tell him what to do and they're mean to him. He has no one younger than him to boss around and so he is absolutely Hell-bent on revenge toward my two sisters and gets extremely mad about stupid things. He has so much anger inside of him that he has no way to get rid of. I try to be his ally in the situation and try to let him know that he has a friend in me, but I don't see it making any progress. I've talked to both of my sisters and asked them to be nicer to him and use the "golden rule" towards him and let him be a little kid. But after 1 day of trying to be nice they give up. I want to talk to my parents because I'm seriously concerned that he may grow up and shoot up his high school, or hurt someone because he is so angry. But I'm not sure how to word what I say to them. I don't want to go to them and when I talk to them, have my end of the conversation appear like I'm accusing them of being bad parents. I'm not saying that they are. I'm saying that I'm concered for their son and my brother. He really is a good kid and to see him so angry hurts me. I'd also feel amazingly guilty if I felt this way right now when he's 10, and I do nothing. If he grows up and does something awful, and I felt that something should have been done and I do nothing. Knowing that I could have prevented it would kill me inside. I'd always live with the guilt of knowing I could have prevented it, and I didn't.
My sister just younger than me thinks he needs therapy. We can't afford therapy. I made a effort a year ago to respect him and be his friend, and he is nice to me. We have our tiffs don't get me wrong, and we do drive each other nuts at times, but he isn't Hell-bent on revenge toward me. He respects me and I respect him. I feel that if my sisters do the same for a couple months he would change his attitude towards them and start to respect them. My sister says that she doesn't ever see that happening. SHE thinks that if he goes into therapy, and gets friends of substance then he'll change. That isn't true. If change is involved she'll need to do some too. She is REALLY bossy and doesn't see that she is. She just sees herself as doing what she feels my parents are lacking in discipling. My parents have raised 5 kids. My sister hasn't had any. My Parents raised me very well, so why would their parenting skills decrease over the years. I think that they know what they are doing. I'm just frustrated and don't know what to do.
Sorry for the rant. I just really needed to vent. I don't know what to do.
My sister just younger than me thinks he needs therapy. We can't afford therapy. I made a effort a year ago to respect him and be his friend, and he is nice to me. We have our tiffs don't get me wrong, and we do drive each other nuts at times, but he isn't Hell-bent on revenge toward me. He respects me and I respect him. I feel that if my sisters do the same for a couple months he would change his attitude towards them and start to respect them. My sister says that she doesn't ever see that happening. SHE thinks that if he goes into therapy, and gets friends of substance then he'll change. That isn't true. If change is involved she'll need to do some too. She is REALLY bossy and doesn't see that she is. She just sees herself as doing what she feels my parents are lacking in discipling. My parents have raised 5 kids. My sister hasn't had any. My Parents raised me very well, so why would their parenting skills decrease over the years. I think that they know what they are doing. I'm just frustrated and don't know what to do.
Sorry for the rant. I just really needed to vent. I don't know what to do.