When your baby is gone...

[angeles]

My son is with his father this week and won't return until Saturday. His father live in Ohio at the present moment so anytime that he wants to see my boy, my boy will be gone for a few days. :a That makes me really sad. And it seems like it gets worse everytime he leaves. The house isn't the same without him in it :a It's nice to have a break away from him, being able to sleep in is great but I would much rather have my baby home with me. Am I being selfish? Anyone have any tips to make the time feel better? He'll be going away for Thanksgiving too :a I miss my baby.

-angeles

[ej]

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You're absolutely not being selfish about it. Our son's father lives in Michigan, so every now and again, when we go down to the States, the boy takes day trips to see him. It's not a week, so we haven't really developed any coping strategies for extended periods of time. But we tend to spend ALL that time together, just the two of us, and do the things we wouldn't do if the kids were around.
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[Ryoko!]

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I'm so sorry, I wish there was something I could do or say to make it better for you. I can't imagine being without my husband for more than a day. I'll cry the first time I have to leave my child with someone else in the family. It's just the type of person I am lol.

[Vik]

I wouldn't know.

My son's father has choosen to have no contact with either of us. My son has had no contact with his father since he was about 3. He's almost 9 now. It hurts him. He asked me this wk what his dad looked like.

Moral: It may suck, but it could be worse. :a

[angeles]

Originally posted by Vik
Moral: It may suck, but it could be worse. :a

Yeah, it still hard though. I do appreciate that my ex is still involved with him, but sometimes it's all a WHOLE lot of trouble just working things out btwn me and him.

I was talking to my son last night and he kept asking me if he could come home to mommy's house and sleep with me :a It's enough to break your heart I tell ya. But he'll be back tomorrow and Mommy's got a surprise for him-I bought him a pet hamster. He is just going to love it! :p

-angeles

[soMnUS]

My oldest is really my step son and his mother lives in the same town. She is very irresponsible and only takes him when she feels like it which is VERY irregular. One week she'll take him 3 days and the next month none at all and so forth. I hate it when he's with her because she drinks, does drugs, lets her friends talk to him like he's a piece of dirt and lives with a different guy every couple of months. She never has anything for him to eat so we have to send him with food or she asks us to pay for pictures she got developed and so forth. I spend his time away worrying about what he's seeing at her place since he draws his mother with detailed boobs on a stick figure. He doesn't draw me this way so he has to have seen her naked enough times to do that. <p> I suppose what I'm saying is if you know your child is gonna be safe it's OK to miss them but the other parent needs to see them too. In my case, we're working on getting full custody because his mother has proven she is selfish, unreliable and that Jerod isn't a priority in her life. I don't want my children growing up knowing their parents don't really love them and I want them to ALWAYS feel safe wherever they go.