Pregnant/With Kids: Did you want to know the sex?

[Cap'n Lunchmeat]

My sister is pregnant right now with her first child - the first grandchild in the family, as well. Her and her husband have decided not to find out the sex before delivery. It's killing me! I don't know how I'll be able to shop for them without knowing!

So what about you? Did you/will you find out? I'd love to have the element of surprise, but I'm so damn impatient!

[Ryoko!]

yup yup. I couldn't WAIT to find out, even though I just <i>knew</i> it was boy. One of the reasons I wanted to find out for sure was a. my husband didn't belive me b. so people would know wether to buy pink or blue.
Not only that but I'm buying everything before he gets here, so it helps us out too.

Although I wish I had kept my mouth shut about the name, some people just don't realize that I'm NOT going to change my mind about that one.
I actually had my hubby's grandmother try to name him for us. :r

[angeles]

when I became pregnant I wanted to know. it makes planning so much easier! But on the other hand, my bro and his wife didn't find out (to the point where his wife was paranoid about the situation-she's stupid!), and there is some fun associated with not knowing. I prefer to know though.

-angeles

[syvvie]

yeah, i found out ahead of time. it really does make the planning easier, knowing what kind of clothes to buy and all that. although i can understand why someone would want wait and be surprised.
i knew, though, like Ryoko, that i was going to have a girl. i just *felt* it.

and then again, the doctors told my cousin that she was having a girl, so she went out and bought all this lacy pink stuff, and ended up having a boy. so if you're going to shop before the baby is born, maybe you should just buy neutral, yellow and green stuff :D

[angeles]

Ryoko! AHHHH... That's your baby in your sig? I can't wait for you to have him *sigh* :p

-angeles

[Charles:]

I think thats pretty selfish of them.

[empresskara]

Yes, as soon as possible.

[Orlando]

I'm 17 weeks pregnant at the mo and I'm going for a scan where I could find out the sex in a couple of weeks. I didn't find out with my first and I won't with this one. It's nothing to do with "spoiling the surpise", I just don't mind if it's a boy or girl as long as it's healthy. Also, it gives everyone something to talk about and stops them trying to poke your belly quite as much ;)

[angeles]

Originally posted by Orlando
Also, it gives everyone something to talk about and stops them trying to poke your belly quite as much ;)

Really? I shouldn't have found out then, b/c I HATED people touching me :)

-angeles

[hot kachina]

No friggin way did I want to know. I wanted that amazing moment in the birthing room. Besides, the second I found out I was pregnant I KNEW it was going to be a boy.

I can see how it would be practical for some people to want to know, though. It was just more fun for me this way.

[St. Theresa]

Well, to some people, knowing what colors to buy is really insignificant. If you want to preserve the surprise for the birth, then you deal with neutral colors. Not an issue.

In my own case, however, I was not interested in surprises. I just wanted to know. I'm like that about everything, anyway. I only had one ultrasound with my son and they said they <i>thought</i> he was a boy, but they weren't 100% certain. So his gender was only half a surprise. I wanted a girl then. I'm sexist. ;)

During the second pregnancy I REALLY wanted a girl. I had my boy. One girl and I could call it quits! I would have been a bit disappointed in the delivery room to hear "it's a boy!" again. That sounds shallow, but it's true, and the fact is that I would have gotten over it. At 8 months, they told me I was definitely carrying a girl. (*thanks Jackie for spreading her legs during the ultrasound*) I was ABSOLUTELY thrilled! That would have been a wonderful surprise at her birth, but I'm impatient.

The fact is that I'm actually closer to my son than my daughter right now. I don't like that "inequity," but it's true. Gender really isn't a big issue now, where I'm concerned. So maybe it I were to do it all over again with this perspective, I would keep it a surprise.

And what's my point again?

[Orlando]

It's soooo annoying, isn't it? I love being pregnant but sometimes I wish that people would remember that I have a face and that I'm not just a belly on legs!

It's nice that they take an interest though.

[Cassiopei]

I wanted to know with both pregnancies. It makes it easier to plan. With the first one we found out just fine. The second wouldn't reveal herself even with 5 ultrasounds. So everyone assumed she would be a boy since I had a girl the first time. Even in the delivery room, just as I was about to have her my mother-in-law keep saying here he comes! We were like it may not be a boy. When she arrived we all laughed cause she was so convinced it would be a boy. So I have experienced both, knowing and not knowing. I do have to admit the suprise was nice, cause I was dying for another girl.

[supernova]

I should be able to find out in January, and my husband and I agreed that we'd like to know. Not for clothes or anything...just because we'd like to know.

[Ryoko!]

Originally posted by angeles
Ryoko! AHHHH... That's your baby in your sig? I can't wait for you to have him *sigh* :p

-angeles

*beams*

yup that's my little bean, at 19 weeks he's waving!
:O

[Vik]

I didn't want to know till I got further along, then I REALLY wanted to know!!

[jenniferblaufrau]

I've never been pregnant, but I'm quite sure I would not want to know. That's just one of those mysteries I'd like to respect.

And I don't give a hoot about color segregation.

[garoux]

^ ha ha! Could be good advice. I wanted to know. There was never any doubt that I wanted to find out. Last year I had a lot of surprises--all of them horrible. I hate surprises, so the control freak in me had to know this baby's gender. We just had another ultrasound yesterday to confirm I'm having a girl.

[monstersmom]

I definately had to know! The suspense for the first few months until they could tell was bad enough. Plus, I think it is better to know, it would be a pain to try and buy for both sexes and have to return the stuff you cant use.

[PotatoFace]

at first i didnt want to know.

but knowing has made it easier . although i still have this irrational fear that she is really a he.