Question

[honeylust]

Say you have two kids. One of your kids is very good at school and gets all As and a couple high Bs. The other kid is not horrible at school, but could certainly improve, as in the A, B, to low C range. Would you put the straight A student's report card on the refrigerator for all to see and then not your other child's?

[Ryoko!]

no. I'd look into why my other child wasn't doing as well though. The biggest thing that irks me about parenting is making a huge deal out everything that kids should do anyways...like do well in school. No one is going to put their paycheck stub on the fridge when they get older. Now let's say a child draws a picture, or learns how to play piano or something, that is something to celebrate.
Also, it bothers me becuase the child who is getting straight A's is being taught that ONLY by maintaining "perfect" grades will he/she get this type of treatment. There are great alternatives though, a scrapbook for each of the kids, showing all thier sucesses in life, not just school, and some of their failures as well, ones that they learn from.
That's just my .02.

[jan]

Never....everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. <br>My oldest is one of those gifted kids and the youngest gets As and Bs. It is great that Tori is so academically gifted but she is very competitive and has the "must win at all costs" attitude b/c of the environment at school. Ali is far more socially gifted and a much gentler soul.<br>Ed pyscs would tell the parents that by putting the report card up, they are telling the average student that she is not as good as the other one and this will serve as a "self-fullfilling prophecy" b/c she will give up even trying b/c she knows they learn think she will be as good as the other