Interesting article

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Hey, everyone. Here's a good article on Salon.com

http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2002/11/21/abuseq_a/index.html

[hollylolly1]

wow, that was really cool. thanks for posting that. i see myself in that article, definitely. my friend jenna gets so annoyed with me because i'm always asking her what's wrong or assuming she's angry or upset when she's perfectly fine. i do that a lot with my parents, too. hmmm.

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Me too. It's endlessly annoying, my own habit of "misjudging" expressions.
I used to take a little bit of silence from someone for that person's complete and utter loathing of me. As well, I misjudged a slew of other things, such as a little bit of polite behavior - normal to anyone else - as someone's "interest" in me. Well, there were times where they were the manipulative kind, that teased for fun, but I'm talking about just normal niceties, sometimes I would take for hints! Ha! Man, was my compass a-spinnin'.

I guess makes complete sense, though. At the same time the hyper awareness is right for extreme conditions, it knocks the subtley right out of the equation for "normal" life; that used to really depress me, when I was bad at detecting and expressing the subtle things, because I had started to realize that nuance, and gradiation, is really the great richness of life. What a shame that some people never truly realize that, and then they die. I mean, the good thing, I think, is that through our deprivation of the nuance in average human behavior where, in our early lives, we experienced mostly extremes of behavior - anger, aggression, sexual aggression, smothering - maybe we know now that the shades are where real life resides, and maybe where "true" love is. I like that, because it isn't so "hot". It's better than that. It's warm. I don't know. That's my take-away from that article, as tangential as it may seem. Not to mention, when you're capable of judging "degrees" of anger, and maybe without always expecting to be hit because of it, you can better resolve conflicts; it's even a healthy conflict.

Peace,

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[hollylolly1]

not trying to get all girly on you, but your responses always make me smile. they are always so informative and thoughtful. you should know you're appreciated.;)

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nothing wrong with girlie. girlie is good. and thanks for the nice words. i like them and this man is not too proud..I'll take it comfort where i can get it, sister.

hope things are good, holly. take care...

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so true. i think we're more empathetic to all this. i've fwd this article to my class-mates, & Prof's in corrections. as well, all the teachers on my list. :b

PS: you guys are aware that i know iciclespark in "real time"? we chatted this weekend at the M&G about some of you. *smile* you are all recognized by us Canadian EWF! :0