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[writingpsycho]

Holy crap. Today, i'm 30 weeks pregnant. i can't believe how fast it's gone by. i'm so ready to not be pregnant anymore, but at the same time, i'm terrified of this whole mommy thing! i know i'll do okay, but, i just don't know if i'm ready. (ha, what a time to say you don't know if you're ready...) anyone else how there single mommies? how did you do it with your first? how am i going to do this?!

[Dita]

I'm not a single mommy, but let me tell you, your life is surely to be turned upside down very fast! I was your age when my first was born, and though unwed, my now husband and I struggled with a lot during those first few months. Adjusting your finances to rearranging your life to not finding a moment to yourself were all part of it. Hell, even jumping in the car to run to McDonald's was a 15 minute preparation, than a 2 second one. It's hard work even with two parents! I commend single mother's everywhere that do a good job!

I wish you and your baby to be much luck and happiness.

[angeles]

single mom here. Financially speaking I don't have much to worry about because my parents have always helped me with my son. Be ready for a lot of late nights and not enough sleep. Be ready to learn how to be patient because a crying baby can't tell you what's wrong. I find that it gets easier as my child gets older. He's 5 now and wants to know everything. I will be truthful and say that I wasn't ready to be a parent (I was only 18 when my son arrived), but I've learned so much about myself that I would have never ever learned otherwise. Good luck in your last weeks, they are definitely the hardest.

xo, angeles

[Sheri]

I'm not a single mom but I know that if I was, I'd be ok.

If I can give you any advice about the last ten weeks of your pregnancy - try not to dwell on them! They will be the slowest ten weeks of your entire life! Especially if you are ready to have that baby now.

Every newborn is different...mine was pretty easy - she didn't have any colic, she only cried when she was hungry. She didn't sleep a whole lot, but I could get her stay asleep for about four hours during the night (in between feedings). Sleep as much as you can during the day when your baby naps. You will change more diapers in the first three months than you even thought imaginable!

If you have any questions, ask. Don't be afraid to call your Dr. and/or the nursing staff in the maternity ward where you deliver day or night ... and the book "What To Expect The First Year" reaaaallllly came in handy. I probably read bits of it every day at first...

Good luck, sweetie. Although I have the love and support (+financially) of my husband, he works full time, and I can honestly say that I take care of our baby 24 hours a day, by myself. No one can tell you how = most everything comes naturally. You will find out all sorts of things about what works for your baby that noone else will know...

[writingpsycho]

thanks for the support, guys. the past 7 months have flown by, so i'm thinking the next few weeks until the baby gets here will probably be pretty fast too. i'm working two jobs, so my days fly by! i've been trying to get that book, what to expect the first year, and if i don't get it at my baby shower or something, i'll probably just check it out at the library. things have been going really good so far.

angeles, is your child's father in his life? if not, does he ask about him yet? what do you say?

i moved out of state away from my ex, he became abusive when i got pregnant. he went to jail for something, and i just left state, he doesn't know where i am, and i intend to keep it that way... so i'm kind of worried about when my baby gets older, asking about daddy and such. i don't know what i'm going to say.

[vampandora]

I freaked out around 30 weeks as well for similar yet completely different reasons since i'm married. It came up so quickly and for my whole pregnancy i'd been worried that the baby would be late, at about 35 weeks all of a sudden i freaked out because i was afraid he'd be early!

You'll be fine...y'know why? Because you have to be. This will be the most amazing experience of your life as well as the most taxing.

My son is now 5 months old and i love every moment with him.

I loved being pregnant and the last few weeks dragged by but at the same time were gone in the blink of an eye.

You'll be fine, things will work out and i hope you don't have to deal with the father too much or too soon.

[writingpsycho]

or ever, i'm hoping. i don't plan on filing for child support or anything, i don't want shit from that person.

[angeles]

angeles, is your child's father in his life? if not, does he ask about him yet? what do you say?

i moved out of state away from my ex, he became abusive when i got pregnant. he went to jail for something, and i just left state, he doesn't know where i am, and i intend to keep it that way... so i'm kind of worried about when my baby gets older, asking about daddy and such. i don't know what i'm going to say.

First off, does the dad know that you are pregnant? I'm sure if he knows, it could lead to a bunch of legal troubles later on if he should pop back into your's and your child's lives. I would advise you to talk to a lawyer about the custody situation, cause you never know when unplanned people may come back into your life.

Myself and my son's father get along enough that my son doesn't realize that we don't care for each other that much. He is in my son's life to an extent (it has it's advantages and disadvantages). He lives out of state and to my last knowledge he was going to school also so he doesn't really see my son that often. He takes him for a week at a time about every other month or so. The next time he'll take him will probably be spring break. And I'm dreading the next few weeks because he decided to stop paying his child support and I'm filing in the courts for him to start paying again. He's certainly not going to be a happy camper. He has gotten better about giving my son a call every other week or so. I think that has more to do with the fact that my son isn't a baby anymore and they're able to do more stuff together. The hard part is when my son comes home from being with his daddy. He bawls that he wants to go back with his daddy. Tears my heart out. And what do you say to a 5 year old about why he can't go with him?

xo, angeles

[writingpsycho]

the dad knows. and it could, it really could lead to a bunch of legal troubles, but... he's married. has 2 kids with his wife, and 2 illigit. kids. (i didn't know any of that until i get preg.) him and his wife are seperated. he doesn't help her with those kids, or the ex girlfriends with the 2 illigit. kids. he doesn't care about them. so i honestly am just praying he won't care about this one, either. which i think will be the case, since he doesn't know where i am. i'm hoping something will be on my side with this, hopefully fate, and he just won't ever find us.

[Sheri]

First off, does the dad know that you are pregnant? I'm sure if he knows, it could lead to a bunch of legal troubles later on if he should pop back into your's and your child's lives. I would advise you to talk to a lawyer about the custody situation, cause you never know when unplanned people may come back into your life.

Myself and my son's father get along enough that my son doesn't realize that we don't care for each other that much. He is in my son's life to an extent (it has it's advantages and disadvantages). He lives out of state and to my last knowledge he was going to school also so he doesn't really see my son that often. He takes him for a week at a time about every other month or so. The next time he'll take him will probably be spring break. And I'm dreading the next few weeks because he decided to stop paying his child support and I'm filing in the courts for him to start paying again. He's certainly not going to be a happy camper. He has gotten better about giving my son a call every other week or so. I think that has more to do with the fact that my son isn't a baby anymore and they're able to do more stuff together. The hard part is when my son comes home from being with his daddy. He bawls that he wants to go back with his daddy. Tears my heart out. And what do you say to a 5 year old about why he can't go with him?

xo, angeles


Please don't feel bad about filing a claim to get your child support from your son's father.... [post28] .... he won't be a happy camper, but he should have never put you in the situation to begin with. Nothing pisses me off more than irresponsibilty of a parent. [post40]