Do you feel like you have to pretend you HATE children?

[nirak]

I get like this sometimes. If I appear to be having too much fun with kids- cousins, nephews, etc, someone will inevitably say "see, you LIKE kids!" and nod their knowing self satisfactory smile that makes me want to knock their teeth out.

Truth is, I don't mind some kids- in small doses and for short periods of time, but I'm always oh so happy when I can go home to my nice, clean (ish) QUIET house.

[Kari]

;l;l

Yes. That happened to me last time I held a newborn. I really love babies, I do, cause they're cute. I mean, I'm not made of stone people. My aunt was like "Awww! Look at Kari! She's so maternal."

And my mom was like "She's gonna have babies!"

:r

[Fox in Socks]

askdalkd right. because YOU dont want kids of your own apparently you hate all children. ive gotten the "youre so GOOD with them". im good at giving them back when they start crying or being sticky or whatever.

[penumbra]

Oh god YES, all the time. It's just that built-in defense - I'm so used to people being offensive that I automatically overcompensate and act like I HATE CHILDREN just so I can be prepared for whatever bullshit they spew at me.

[Tyler]

ive gotten the "youre so GOOD with them".


Me too! I, however, do not want children of my own. Little nieces and nephews are fine, but my own kids? I'll pass.

[Kippy]

I am fascinated by children developmentally and enjoy playing with them when I can set the time limits. It doesn't mean I LIKE them, it just means I've found a new science project.

[Rinky vs.4.0]

Not really. At least, not when Ellen isn't around.

[Kippy]

You just reminded me of something. Epcot Centre, I have just discovered, has a ride called Ellen's Energy Adventure.

"Get a burst of energy on this fun-filled ride starring Ellen DeGeneres."

I shat myself.

[Rinky vs.4.0]

^Bizarre.

[nirak]

It's kinda sad, becasue I even find myself doing this around my husband, and I know he does it around me, too. Because if one of us decided they wanted kids, it would be hard to continue the relationship, you know?

We gotta be very careful to talk about it, touch base and make sure we're still ont he same page quite often.

[Vampire Kites]

no, I actually have this weird sense of dread whenever I see children.

[haunted]

nope. actually, I should hug a relative because I have it so good ;l not even my mother (who would kill for grandchildren) bothers me anymore.

my family may not agree with all my life choices, but they've actually become rather supportive, in the sense that they don't try to convince me to change my mind. I also do not know too many people who are "omg, wtf, you have to have c hildren sghjdkfhdfjk!" or maybe I'm just not at the age where it has clicked in yet ;l people tend to focus on bugging me about not dating.

I don't even mind most kids that much. I just don't care to be responsible for one 24 hours a day...or even for 2 hours.

[nirak]

nope. actually, I should hug a relative because I have it so good ;l not even my mother (who would kill for grandchildren) bothers me anymore.

my family may not agree with all my life choices, but they've actually become rather supportive, in the sense that they don't try to convince me to change my mind. I also do not know too many people who are "omg, wtf, you have to have c hildren sghjdkfhdfjk!" or maybe I'm just not at the age where it has clicked in yet ;l people tend to focus on bugging me about not dating.

I don't even mind most kids that much. I just don't care to be responsible for one 24 hours a day...or even for 2 hours.

For me, it didn't start till I got married. Then everyone started asking if I'd changed my mind about kids.

um, no. Actually, getting married makes me not want to have kids even more. I love my husband, and I don't wanna share!

[Sarah.]

My housemates were really shocked to see me feel sad when I saw an NSPCC advert on tv, they said "but, you don't like children?!" Well, I'm not utterly adoring of children and I don't want any, but I'm not made of stone! Child abuse is obviously horrific, and just because I don't want a baby doesn't mean I clap my hands with glee at the thought of babies being abandoned by their parents.

[Rinky vs.4.0]

My housemates were really shocked to see me feel sad when I saw an NSPCC advert on tv, they said "but, you don't like children?!" Well, I'm not utterly adoring of children and I don't want any, but I'm not made of stone! Child abuse is obviously horrific, and just because I don't want a baby doesn't mean I clap my hands with glee at the thought of babies being abandoned by their parents.

Isn't it fucking stupid how many people think not liking the company or behaviour of children means you want to inflict serious physical harm on them? I mean, if you say "I don't much like having cats/dogs around," nobody immediately assumes you approve of animal cruelty, do they? Yet apparently, not liking kids is so taboo people feel inclined to make a total leap of logic in this way.