"Sorry, but my children bore me to death!"

[hollerskates]

i guess maybe this is more suited for the parents' forum, but i'm posting this here because this woman's feelings remind me a lot of how many childfree feel when they have nightmares about having children, ha! i know i do. having been a nanny for 3 years, i know exactly where this woman is coming from. she's getting a lot of heat for this article. it was actually being discussed on my local radio station. parents and childfree alike called in to comment. it was not pretty.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=397672&in_page_id=1879&ico=Homepage&icl=TabModule&icc=FEMAIL&ct=5

[Rinky vs.4.0]

I really don't know why this is so controversial. Of course adult women are likely to get bored with kiddie care and kiddie conversation and so on to different degrees depending on their interests. I highly doubt that a father expressing such feelings would have drawn half the flak. But women are meant to be baby-worshipping creatures who apprently get excited by kindergarten anecdotes and kiddy birthday parties and such, at least according to the sentimental version of motherhood we're treated to by various organisations and the media these days, so ...

The only thing I would question with this woman is why she even bothered to have kids, or have lultiple kids, if she doesn't enjoy them at all. I guess she's another life-scripter who had kids because she thought, 'That's what you do,' or because her husband wanted them. I'm inclined to write her a note explaining the concept of CF-dom and how it's not actually compulsary for women to have kids anymore, in case she missed the memo.

[jenniferblaufrau]

That was hilarious.

'Their demand for external support is enormous,' says Kati St Clair. 'They enter the real world totally ill-prepared. You damage a child just as much by giving them extreme attention as you do by ignoring them altogether. Both are forms of abuse.'

Amen.

I think my greatest weakness is my selfishness; I would rather watch CSI than read a book to my daughter; I would rather read my novel than watch my children during their swimming lesson. But I choose to work on my weaknesses and push myself to do the better thing, rather than see my selfishness as something to celebrate and joke about.

Hooooo boy.

[Fox in Socks]

pretty funny--although she seems like she would be a bit shallow with or without kids.

[bellegurl]

I love my child to distraction. I just don't feel I have to spend 24 hours a day playing with him, taking him out--nor would he let me. Kids need their time just as much as adults. I love the time I do spend with my son--but there is something wrong with a mother who needs to spend all her time. I think that is guilt talking. After my divorce, I had those feelings--now I know better. And, yes, I, too, can't wait for September--it's the most wonderful time of the year!!

Although, I do think it would be a good idea to send the nanny home sooner and read the bedtime story herself. It is important to spend some time with your child. There is a fine line between being a good mother and being an indifferent one, and only she would know the boundary. And I agree with Denali--this person would be shallow with or without kids. She should have made the decision not to have any--because it is obvious she wants nothing to do with her own. I feel it isn't healthy to be completely wrapped up in your kids, having no life of your own, but it is equally unhealthy (for the kids) not to want to have anything to do with them. It is tragic, and, yes, a form of neglect--even abuse.

[nirak]

Besides, in my view, making a child your career is a dangerous move because your marriage and sense of self can be sacrificed in the process.

My husband and I just spent and evening with our friends (who have a 9 month old) and she was complaining about this. She went on a walk the other night an witnessed a boy- maybe 8 years old- throwing a temper tantrum in the driveway because his mom was going out without him. And she got out of the car and consoled him! She said that she will not be that way. (I believe her. I can totally see her saying to her kid "tough shit, kiddo. suck it up")

These are the kids that end up moving back in with their moms at 30 because they want that reassurance that their moms gave them, and can't handle the disappointment of the 'real world.' These super involved moms are really damaging their kids a great deal.

They stopped asking me to take them to the park (how tedious) years ago. But now when I try to entertain them and say: 'Why don't we get out the Monopoly board?' they simply look at me woefully and sigh: 'Don't bother, Mum, you'll just get bored.'

How right they are.

That's great. Kids shouldn't expect their parents to be their personal amusement. Kids SHOULD be able to entertain themselves- being alone is where creativity starts!

[half1113]

My parents still had a life without my sister and me. We did do family stuff in the winter, like puzzles and games, but they never made it us.

I believe a lot of parents think their lives are supposed to revolve soley around their children. I don't think that's true. I think parents need date night and reconnect time. My cousin was one of those who cried when my Aunt got out to pump gas, I used to tell him he was a titty baby.

I don't plan on being a coddling mother. I wasn't raised by one. She loved, nutured, and supported me, but didn't coddle me.

[jenniferblaufrau]

I used to tell him he was a titty baby.
;l You just totally threw me back to childhood. Anytime I would cry, my older brother would tell me to "stop being a titty baby". Hehehe.

I have to raise at an eyebrow at mothers who won't do anything without their kids as much as I do at women who won't do anything without their boyfriends. It's just not healthy, and it's setting both people up for so many problems in the future. Some years back, a friend of mine had her first baby, and she complained all the time about how she never had any time to herself and so on. I offered to babysit her daughter for a few hours so she or she and her husband could have a few hours away, as did many other of her friends, I am told, but she wouldn't do it. And I think it was definitely about her need to feel needed by the baby or to control the situation obsessively and not concern for her. Cut the cord, ladies. ;K

[half1113]

;l You just totally threw me back to childhood. Anytime I would cry, my older brother would tell me to "stop being a titty baby". Hehehe.

I have to raise at an eyebrow at mothers who won't do anything without their kids as much as I do at women who won't do anything without their boyfriends. It's just not healthy, and it's setting both people up for so many problems in the future. Some years back, a friend of mine had her first baby, and she complained all the time about how she never had any time to herself and so on. I offered to babysit her daughter for a few hours so she or she and her husband could have a few hours away, as did many other of her friends, I am told, but she wouldn't do it. And I think it was definitely about her need to feel needed by the baby or to control the situation obsessively and not concern for her. Cut the cord, ladies. ;K

When my aunt (different aunt) divorced her second husband she told my mom, "Any time you need to spend quality time with B, just call and drop Laurie off." I spent some quality time with my aunt and cousins because of that. It probably helped my parents marriage a great deal as well.

My cousin the titty baby was so annoying. I wanted to smack him. He could look out the van window see my aunt pumping the gas.

[entropy]

i'd never heard "titty baby" before. i love it!

i love this thread.

[jeth]

I heard some kid in the backyard next door howling over something last night and the first thought in my head was "titty baby." I couldn't stop laughing.

I want an excuse to call someone that.

[half1113]

I heard some kid in the backyard next door howling over something last night and the first thought in my head was "titty baby." I couldn't stop laughing.

I want an excuse to call someone that.

The next time you are around someone who doesn't want to do what you want to do, tell them to quit being a titty baby. ;K

My husband has done that to me when it came to doing shots at the bar.