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St. Theresa
08-09-2006, 12:08 AM
First of all, I really need to be childfree-free. I restrain myself from looking at the CF forum too much and, until today, I have never posted. But I found a complaint over the top and said something. 'Course, disagreement there goes over like a lead balloon. Basically, you're not ALLOWED to disagree, so I ain't going back.

But I'm left with this: a cash register, with other people waiting, is not the time or place to teach your kids about how to handle money. If you insist on letting your kids make their own purchases, you should go to the back of the line and let the other people in front of you. I'm not entirely sure if the poster in question would have you continue to go back to the line indefinitely, as long as people joined the line or until the store closed (and man, I don't wanna know), but that's what I came away with. And it really bothered me.

Now, the original complaint didn't include this elaboration: the mother (or "bitch") was in line by herself at first (and already annoying because all 8 of her items had to be scanned and demagnetized - and you KNOW that all mothers set store policy) and taking a long time to get the exact change. The kids ran up to the line as she was almost done, at which point she told the cashier they would be paying for their own purchases. When the poster made an some sort of noise of annoyance, the mother apologized, but that wasn't good enough. She should have gone to the back of the line.

Ok, so I can see an issue where the kids came into the line later. You think you're in a short line, and suddenly, it gets longer and longer (like that Sponge Bob episode....) I just doubt that most of those who find it annoying when kids are involved would start a thread about it if, say, instead of kids, it was the woman's husband or elderly parent. Haven't some of the same people who complain about something like this "cut" in front of other people by joining a friend in a bathroom line at a concert or something?

But, anyway....

Is a store NOT the place to teach your kids about money? Would it be considered just as rude if the woman's kids had already been standing there when other people got behind her? Because your kids might be a little slower on the draw with cash than an experienced adult, should you ONLY allow them to make their own purchases if there's nobody waiting behind you? Should you tell people behind you that your kids are going to buy their own stuff? Or do you take as long as you're going to take, like anyone does?

What do you tell the eager little kid? Sorry, but you're not actually going to do this like a big girl like I told you because the person who just got behind us may be more important/childfree/in a hurry.

?

I've had my son run up to me at the grocery store with his own purchase, just as I was finished and, because I was through, I've had him wait for the person behind me to have their turn. So yeah, I'd say, of course you don't teach them cutting-in-line techniques. I mean, my own conscience prevents me from committing such social misdeeds.

But what about letting kids pay in general? Have some of us been annoying bitches/bastards by acting as if our kids have the same rights as adults when it comes to first-come first-served?

Help me find the happy medium between OMG KIDS SHOULDN'T BE ALLOWED IN PUBLIC and OMG MY KIDS ARE WAY MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU!

PotatoFace
08-09-2006, 12:17 AM
I'm not going to even touch the whole mother thing yet.

BUT

Of all the years I have worked in retail people going on about how they are in a hurry sure do piss me off. Seriously, if you are THAT pressed for time, what are you doing in line? Hell, why are you even in the store. I mean there are times I am in the line and someone else is being a total pratt and taking too much time, but I just have to suck it up because well I took the time out of my schedule to come in and get what I needed. Just because I am in line and in a hurry doesnt mean that I am more important than you. I just am more important than you because I have given forth life into the world and your life has no meaning without children. ha.

I just feel this way, if the children are in line, they deserved to be waited on. If that bothers others, then just move lines. It's not rocket science.

St. Theresa
08-09-2006, 12:45 AM
Just because I am in line and in a hurry doesnt mean that I am more important than you. I just am more important than you because I have given forth life into the world and your life has no meaning without children. ha.
I lactate, therefore I am. [post83]

Oh, and...BINGO!
I just feel this way, if the children are in line, they deserved to be waited on. If that bothers others, then just move lines. It's not rocket science.
Right. I kind of wish this one didn't have the complication of the kids running to the line AFTER more people had gotten there. Because it would be nice to see their perspective with the purity of a situation where the kids ARE in line, already, but they take a long time making their purchases. THAT can be applied to anyone's old grandma - or just about anyone on an off day.

That whole CF thing is dangerous territory to me, and one of the reasons I seldom say anything is because I really adore a certain person there - so much so, that she stayed in my home after a Tori show - a show to which I brought my 11 year-old. IRL, I didn't feel any great divide between us. She wasn't all "OMG I so hate your parent lifestyle" and my kids weren't obnoxious. (I also didn't know about this whole childfree thing at the time and, for that, I'm glad.)

And one of the things she has asserted since then (and I still love her just as much) is that children shouldn't be allowed in grocery stores. And that just completely blows my mind. I NEVER thought of that ever - and never knew there were communities of people who felt the same way. It's scary to know it exists. [shock]

I feel compelled to speak up when I see something that strikes me as outrageous, but the point of those communities is NOT to see the other side of the story or to understand the parent's perspective, which is why it's frustrating to even read any of it.

I can't help but think that seeing both sides of it would deflate the severity of some of their complaints, which seem to be the backbone of the whole community thing.

:g

On the bright side, I introduced the term "crotch-dropping" to my daughter today. She was amused and perhaps I'll adopt it as a term of endearment.