Sex. What's that?

[LavenderSession]

It's been over a month now and even though I was given the green light by my doctor, my husband is showing no signs of interest. Plus, he just had to point out last week how much my body has changed - and not in a good way. I don't think he was trying to be mean or anything. I think he was just joking around, but it basically made me feel undesirable. And it really doesn't help that he flirts with my very attractive, single friend who comes over often to visit.

I feel like shit right now and just needed to bitch and moan.

[chickentart]

Honey, it's ok. Adjusting to life with a baby is seriously life changing, no matter if it's your first or fifth! And that's not even counting what kind of physical adjustments your body is dealing with. Look, you're not going to look the same overnight. It's part of the package, and that's so OK! You just need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel, and mention that hey, i'm still having some body sensitivity here! so maybe he can be aware of that in the future and know that the best thing he can do is be loving and encouraging.

i'm always freaking out about getting fat, and my husband says, look lady, you are not getting fat. you are getting pregnant. so just look at it as an extension of having the baby--getting back into shape. you never got fat! you just got pregnant. and now you're on your way back (at whatever pace you choose) to your normal shape.

chin up sweetie. this is just the suckiest part of having babies, i believe, but you are going to rock it so hard, i promise. :)

[LavenderSession]

Hey, thanks!! It actually wasn't a "you're getting fat" comment. There was no mention of the word fat. It was a comment about how I've lost my butt. Which is why I posted what I did in the new body realization thread in OIT. Actually, I weigh less now then I did at the beginning of my pregnancy. How that I happened, I have no idea, but I am pretty pumped about that. I know all I need to do is some walking and some stairs and my butt will firm up again, but I also know it will never be the same.

On another note, I am truly frightened how different it is with 2 kids. And how hard. I'm convinced the baby is colic and he has problems pooping. He hadn't gained his birth weight back at his visit last week so I have to take him in this week to be checked again. And my three year old is extremely demanding. I'm a little stressed.

I did talk to him and he said he didn't mean anything by it. He was teasing, like I thought. I did tell him that now is not the time. So things are okay there. Anyway, you made me feel better, so thanks!

[dormilona]

have you been very direct about your intentions? i don't have the same bod i used to, but having a baby has made me feel much more sexual overall. poor husband, i think sometimes that i'm going to break the poor man's back.