Am I A Bad Friend?

[LilArsonist]

Hello to any one who is actually gonna read this!
First, lemme introduce myself. Im Tara, I cut myself, Im depressed. Ok, now that we have that over with....

One of my best friends... we'll say her name is Sara... she cuts herself too now and she is really depressed. I know thats not too unusual, but she has been close to killing herself a couple of times. I believe shes even tried, but her parents dont know. Im only 16 and Im not really sure how to deal with something like this. I know its none of my business to tell her parents, but I would rather lose her as a friend and save her life than have her dead and regret not telling ne one... feeling guilty my whole life. I love her very much (Im a girl too, but i just meant as a friend) and i would never want to lose her. Any advise offered would be appreciated. Thank you very much!

Tara

[St. Theresa]

I think you answered your own question, Tara. You'd rather lose her friendship than see her lose her life. This isn't exactly the same thing, but you know about the recent shooting in California where two students died? Several of the shooter's friends were aware that he was discussing this, but no one ever thought to tell the police. They feel horribly guilty now. The tragedy could have been prevented if someone had taken this boy's words seriously.

Better safe than sorry. I think that's the philosophy you need to use here.

As for you, I'm sorry for the pain you are going through. It is definitely beyond the scope of my capabilities to "advise" you. I only know that sometimes it's helpful in self-injury to try to take the aggression out on something else when the urge strikes...rip newspapers, pound nails...anything that let's you vent that anger you usually take out on yourself. You're a caring person, as evidenced by your post, and you deserve to treat yourself with respect. I'm sure you know about the self-injury forum here, but if you don't, you'll see that there are many people here who totally understand what you're going through.

Hugs.

[Cheri]

I totally agree with what St. Theresa has said. Better to lose her as a friend because eventually she may come around and see your point of view than if she did succeed and you would never get another chance.

[LilArsonist]

Thanks guyz,
I really appreciate that! :-)

*::Hugs2U2!::*

Tara

[Cheri]

You are so welcome. Have a nice day!