Casual Sex?

Charles: · 03-12-2003, 02:09 PM

What's your take on it? I've dated girls, but due to my schedule (not alot of time) and the fact that girls are high maintenance

I'm single by choice...but I need sex. So, I've decided to have casual sex. I'm up front with the girls and so far it seems to be working for me.

so..anyone cool with only having casual sex as an interaction with a partner?

MiseryChick · 03-12-2003, 07:42 PM

*cries because I'm too nervous to ask for a handshake or a hug*

SisterJanet · 03-13-2003, 02:07 AM

I cannot understand casual sex. I see it as a desecration of something sacred. It doesn't appeal to me in the least. For me, sex needs to be meaningful. It's such an important part of a person that I refuse to reduce it to a mere passing of time, means of getting off, or socially expected act. I can't relate to people who reduce this act to primitive interactions between bodies. Humans are capable of such intense emotion and I see this emotion as an integral part of this otherwise animalistic behavior. I'm really not trying to piss anyone off and I know this is a sensitive subject for many people. This is just my opinion.

besides, what would I know...I'm just a 22 year old virgin.

luckystar89 · 03-13-2003, 02:21 AM

Casual sex is fun...especially GENITAL HERPES - now I'd LOVE to catch that. no wait, wait, scabies sounds appealing too. Oh, yeah SCABIES! OOO OOO no, wait, wait - infected with HIV. That'd be great!

I just don't know which one to choose!

*shrugs*

Dillinger · 03-13-2003, 02:37 AM

There was a time in my life when I was OK with casual sex but thats not the case for me anymore.

If I don't have a really strong connection with a person, I can't even consider it. When you really love someone, and I'm talking about the inner person that you can't really see but can only sense kind of love, its like magic. Once you've had that even once, its hard to go back to casual sex.

So I guess I don't disagree with casual sex but its so much better to find the time, free up the schedule, do the maintenance and find that girl who can make you soar. Its really worth the effort.

And if you expend the effort, find the special someone and keep your priorities straight...casual sex will be about as exciting to you as hanging wallpaper.

Final word from me though is, I've been there, done that, and if its two consenting adults and no one is unaware of it being casual, theres nothing wrong with it.

Charles: · 03-13-2003, 11:47 AM

Obviously people have different ways of looking at sex. I don't have any problems seperating sex from love. I've been in love and yes, sex with someone you love is much better, but love takes time...and I'm horny...a lot. I don't have time to cultivate a loving relationship with a gril. I just don't have an interest in that now. I don't know why.
I'll be honest, I get a thrill out of the fact that I'm able to have sex with a girl I've never met..just by talking to her for a couple of hours. It's like a psychological sex game. Can I say what this girl wants to hear? Can I say the right things to get her to sleep with me?
when I couple that with the act itself, it's quite pleasurable for me....but that's just me.

I have always reduced the act of sex to a primal urge..there's nothing sacred about the act itself... every animal has sex. what I do value are the emotions behind the act.

regarding the response above about STD's...there are precautions I take. Just as you take a risk to drive to work everyday, I take a risk by having protected sex. Neither acts are 100% safe, but you decide to do them for some reason or another. I assume you stay in a cave and never step out. Cause afterall, how could you get in an elevator...it might fall..and don't cross the street cause you might get hit by a car.

funnylip_shape · 03-13-2003, 04:03 PM

out of the option for me.

I cant seperate love and sex.

Charles: · 03-14-2003, 12:09 AM

It would be interesting to get your age and experience with love and sex...if you care to share.

I'm 27 ...longest relationship was 8 years.. under 20 sexual partners.

Lucy Forever · 03-14-2003, 12:53 AM

I'll bite...

As long as there is protection and a level of trust, I'm fine with casual sex. I was even the best at it at one point. I was good at separating love and sex

I don't think I could do it now though, but then again, I haven't been offered it lately. I'd like a little stability with my relationships with others, especially since I lost a lot of people I was friends with last year. I don't know if I want more people coming in and out of my life, especially skeezy college boys.

I don't know if that made any sense, but I think I've placed a little more value on sex then I did when I was younger. I don't have any problems with other people having casual sex, as long as they're careful.
I'm twenty and had 4 partners.

Charles: · 03-14-2003, 04:30 PM

I just find the psychology behind people's sexual views to be facinating.

Prometheus · 03-16-2003, 07:22 PM

I don't know. I really want to be loved but there are times when I get very sexually frustrated and I just want to have sex very badly.

SisterJanet · 03-16-2003, 10:24 PM

k...I'm a 22 year old virgin. yeah I know we're hard to come by...but don't worry, I won't join a freak show till I turn 23.
here's my deal. I am a virgin, but I am not a prude. I am not waiting for marriage and I don't think sex is dirty. I can be a sexual person without being sexually active (tricky...I know).
I want a commited, loving relationship. I had no idea it would take over 22 years...but I'm not one for compromises.

Prometheus · 03-17-2003, 04:35 AM

I'm a 31 year old virgin.

Charles: · 03-17-2003, 11:08 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by SisterJanet
k...I'm a 22 year old virgin. yeah I know we're hard to come by...but don't worry, I won't join a freak show till I turn 23.
here's my deal. I am a virgin, but I am not a prude. I am not waiting for marriage and I don't think sex is dirty. I can be a sexual person without being sexually active (tricky...I know).
I want a commited, loving relationship. I had no idea it would take over 22 years...but I'm not one for compromises.

Actually that's nice to hear.. I admire a girl whos does what she says. No compromises!!

WaterColor Stain · 03-17-2003, 01:50 PM

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Your rock Sister Janet. I had your philosophy until this year when I met the love of my life. Only then did I decide to become sexually active. But I was a 20 y.o virgin...and was not a prude. Congrats on being strong...looking back, I don't see how I did it!